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The Well-Behaved Child: Discipline that Really Works! by John Rosemond
I absolutely loved The Well-Behaved Child. In fact, I don’t think I have ever enjoyed a parenting book so much. The author, a well-respected lecturer and child psychologist, is bringing back “old-school” parenting. He argues that almost 40 years of psychobabble has created a generation of wet-noodle parents who allow the child to be the center of the household.
The author begins the book by explaining the logic behind his parenting advice. While parenting theory has never been something that I’ve found particularly fascinating, I did thoroughly enjoy this section and realized that I already agree with much of what the author had to say. In summary, children respond to and appreciate more a discipline program that is simple and precise (as opposed to a wishy-washy “tell me your feelings” approach). Another way of putting it: Children behave better and are happier when they have clear boundaries.
Next, the author gives strategies, concrete examples, and testimonials to illustrate his methods at work. It was amazing to see such little changes to my approach make such a difference. For example: Do you ever have to ask your child 4-5 times to do something? You shouldn’t. Why wait until you’ve asked them 5 times until they get a consequence for not putting on their shoes? If they don’t respond after the first request, give a consequence. After a few times of this, they learn something that will make you and your child’s life easier: respond to mom/dad the first time they ask.
Finally, the author goes over the seven most common struggles that parents have with children and gives instructions on how to get them on the right track. They are: Bedtime battles, food fights (finicky eating, etc.), stealing/lying, sibling warfare, defiance, tantrums, and refusing to use the potty.
To conclude, I HIGHLY RECOMMEND this book to anyone who believes that children aren’t “little adults” who can be reasoned/bargained with or “dogs” who need treats to perform. This is a book that brings parenting back.
